Self-disclosure has the power to change the past into the present. When the fire burns, the sparks shine; And I apply this in my self-disclosure, because as the story gets closer to reality, the interest will be greater and the sparks that from the chisel and hammer emanate from shaping my life will be discovered.
The child is optimistic, naive, dependent, emotional, elastic, flexible, tireless, upright, spiritual and loving player. You were like that. We all went like this. Then we began to listen to the adults around us and we believed them, now we deny our magnificence, our condition as children and we are filled with beliefs that the only thing they do is limit our development and move away from happiness by not being able to manage and enjoy the resources around us. Now you wear a mask to interact in life, you hide your own identity for fear of being embarrassed, of being hurt again.
You protect the wounded child who lives within you, because you do not want him to continue suffering; but even if you don't want it, the wounded child manifests itself at every moment and blocks your development and you continue to suffer. That is the reason why I recommend you make the decision to analyze your childhood and heal the wounds that cause you to act in this way and have the results that you now have in your life.
I once heard "tell me what childhood you had and I will tell you who you are", and I think it makes sense to affirm this, because the most important bases of your adult behavior are found in childhood, (although later you were adding elements that helped you build your own personality) and if this stage was stormy, your results in adult life will be the same. There will reflect the base you had, and that only you can remedy.
Take back your life
Getting your life back is a process that can start with activities as simple as reflecting on yourself. Remember the details of your childhood, your parents' strengths and weaknesses, of the possible consequences of your relationship with them. I invite you to watch the movie of your childhood, uncensored (it is not advisable to share the information with your parents or close relatives). I invite you to go to the beach or to a secluded place; lose yourself a whole day and you will have the opportunity to reflect on who you are and who you want to choose to be.
Give yourself the opportunity to heal your inner child and you will recover the freshness of childhood, the happiness that has been lost over time and you will see life as a kaleidoscope. Give yourself the opportunity to be free and love again and you will feel safe from this world of fears, afflictions ... in short, from this madness in which we live.
If you have a photo of when you were a child, take it; If you still have some toys from your childhood, I advise that they be part of your luggage on this trip, in addition to a notebook and a pencil. When you see the photo, you will notice the joy that emanated from your eyes when you were a child. You will see an innocent, wonderful little boy who only wants the opportunity to live his own life.
Perhaps you have felt the need to be free of all those limitations in your life that prevent you from enjoying life fully. You may be surrounded by people who are frank, open and expressive and want to put aside your shyness and be more effusive. This is the time to do it.
Exercises
1. Get yourself to account. Find a place in intimacy where you can reflect on everything you are now and would not want to be. Perhaps a person involved in worries, fears, doubts, fears, who does not release power, angry, anyway.
2. Make a count of your childhood. Analyze why there are certain barriers in your life or aspects that bother you about others. Start remembering moments in your childhood when you went through a similar circumstance.
3. Identify who harmed you. Maybe you could identify people who hurt you, offended you, or made you feel very bad, and as a result, your personality changed radically.
4. Leave your wounds behind. Stop it in your mind, recreate that situation and forgive the person. You may not feel like he deserves it, but it is the only way to be free. Forgive him and pronounce it audibly.
5. Dare to change. Break your molds, declare from time to time that you can be different and start doing those things that limit you.
6. Start dreaming. Being free nothing stops you to dream and achieve the goals you set for yourself. Be visionary and be happy.